Rebecca Solnit, in her brilliantly beautiful book, A Field Guide to Getting Lost, muses around “the blue of distance”—the way the shorter wavelengths of blue light scatter on the edges of the horizon, in water, in the sky, giving whatever is far away a dreamy and melancholic blue haze. She recalls gazing back from Mt […]
Category: How to do life
“We won’t stop. We won’t back down. We won’t be afraid.”
“Are you Emily?” There was a church service going on in the coffee shop where I was working. Church service was an aspirational name for the tiny, informal gathering. It was about 8 people doing their thing just around the corner from some comfy couches where I had settled in. The first thing I heard […]
I won’t waste another day living someone else’s way
I just got introduced to Mikey Mike. This guy sums it up best when he says, “…and my stomach nearly falls out of my butt within the first 10 seconds because the lyrics are so resonant and prophetic.” Put this on repeat. Meet Mikey Mike: I was walkin’ ’round the neighbourhood, with my mom And […]
The difference between judgement and discernment
Judgement is when we decide the value of someone or something based on our own assumptions or observations. Discernment is when we decide the value of someone or something TO OUR OWN LIVES and choose to embrace or ignore it. Judgement makes life smaller. Discernment makes life bigger. Judgement reduces value. Discernment raises and protects […]
How to find your purpose
Do what is in front of you. Then just keep going. Let’s all stop dreaming about abandoning our professional paths to go find our “passion”. In fact, let’s just get rid of that word entirely except for when it is followed by “fruit” and therefore delicious. It is a word that feeds the harmful expectation […]
Don’t mistake comfort for happiness
In western society, we are killing ourselves with comfort, searching for an elusive sense of happiness when what has the potential to bring us security, contentment, agency over our lives, and connection to people and purpose – is discomfort. “You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but […]
Don’t take advice from crackpots on the internet
This is my standing disclaimer for any stupid shit I advocate for on this site. Be smart. Listen to yourself and people you trust to help you make good choices. Don’t take advice from crackpots like me on the internet unless you’ve really considered and vetted your moves. That’s all.
It is not self-help. It is alchemy.
Helping yourself is about locking into the raw and bold truth of who you are and aligning it within everything you do and are. The truth of who you are doesn’t come from how you show up or what you do. It is what can only be described as your Self. And when you align […]
The terrifying prospect of being alright
Feeling not good enough is useful. There is safety in believing we are broken, and a lot of us work very hard to ensure life feeds us continual validation of our own insufficiency. Being not good enough gives us hope and control. As long as the size of my ass, heft of my bank account, […]
Talk therapy is dangerous bullshit
Handing your troubles over to a psychologist or psychiatrist is a dangerous way to deceive yourself and very likely get you more effed up, or at best, stalled out at a level of good enough. The smarter you are, the more dangerous it is. Here’s why. Talk therapy relies on the weakest and most recently […]