Let’s stop getting all catywhompus about the profound importance of mornings. You have one thing you need to do in this life. Just one. Are you ready? Here it is: Your only fucking job in this life is to manifest you, as only you can, exactly how you are, in the most genuine and courageous […]
Category: Health and happiness
Love is a giver
I used to only know entanglement and I thought it was love. There was love in there, for certain. Sometimes lots. But it was a love I felt owed me things, heavy with expectations. It was love designed for getting from. This is different. The love doesn’t change when he’s gone. I still feel […]
I don’t think of me as single
Let’s agree to use the word “god” as a shorthand. I don’t mean it as a shorthand for the ever-fashionably non-committal “whatever god you want to believe in”. Not at all. I mean it specifically as a shorthand for “Kathryn’s somewhat bizarre and magical experience of a high reality which works awesomely and she doesn’t […]
Save Schrodinger’s Cat
Let’s call it “Experiential Quantum Superposition”. I hypothesize that the truest stories have no endings. These stories fizzle messily into the unknown, forcing us to accept all the many layers of complex and sometimes conflicting truth in one big chaotic soup. These loose ends make us uncomfortable, take away clear targets for assigning blame, and […]
Give up early. Give up often.
I believe in quitting. I am a devout quitter. Because every act of quitting is the powerful act of choosing something else. Life is unconsumably large. In our time here, we select a tiny subset of all that we could experience and we must, by design, leave the rest. And much of what we leave […]
I went into the bathroom to brush my teeth…
…and I don’t know what happened, but suddenly I realized I had been standing there practicing the robot for like five minutes. I don’t remember deciding to practice the robot. I don’t remember starting the robot. It was like blacking out and waking up doing the robot naked in my bathroom. I wasn’t doing it […]
Stop drinking now or you are going to get cancer and die slowly and alone, probably ugly crying.
There is a different life than the one your wine-sipping, margarita Tuesday, beer-with-the-guys self is currently living, hiding just on the flip side of your current reality. And it’s different, harder, and better. Here’s why. Many people in your life are not as interesting as you want to believe they are. This sounds like a […]
A 25 year scavenger hunt for love, through a forest of sex and acceptance
I lost count of my partners when my numbers passed my age in my early 20’s. After 3 cancelled engagements by age 22 and sincere, heartfelt efforts at trying to be a good mate, it was clear I didn’t have the chips to play the poker game of love, with myself or with another person. […]
When your pain isn’t yours
I wasn’t born understanding how to connect to my own feelings. It’s a learned skill and I’ve worked hard to earn a deep and powerful toolset that fits around it. It works incredibly well, if sometimes slower and with more effort than other people expect. So when I find myself suffering in ways go on […]
The most important thing you can ever understand about anger
Anger is the manifestation of you thinking something should be different than it is. Test it out. A brilliant friend told me this at exactly the right moment, many years ago. I righteously disagreed with him and then started observing – and there were no exceptions. Anger is always the manifestation of you thinking something […]