…there’s no going back to who you were before. It’s like, as long as nobody makes sense, it’s easy to just keep trying to figure yourself out, even long after you feel pretty fine with who you are. But getting the chance to know just one incredible person who is your kind of weirdo instantly […]
Month: February 2018
How to find your purpose
Do what is in front of you. Then just keep going. Let’s all stop dreaming about abandoning our professional paths to go find our “passion”. In fact, let’s just get rid of that word entirely except for when it is followed by “fruit” and therefore delicious. It is a word that feeds the harmful expectation […]
The audacity of normal after loss
I talk about the end of my last romantic relationship like a death. It was essentially like knowing someone really special in your life has a month to live and then seeing them disappear in a moment, and that felt like a small (or not so small) death to me. We knew about a month […]
Don’t mistake comfort for happiness
In western society, we are killing ourselves with comfort, searching for an elusive sense of happiness when what has the potential to bring us security, contentment, agency over our lives, and connection to people and purpose – is discomfort. “You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but […]
Don’t take advice from crackpots on the internet
This is my standing disclaimer for any stupid shit I advocate for on this site. Be smart. Listen to yourself and people you trust to help you make good choices. Don’t take advice from crackpots like me on the internet unless you’ve really considered and vetted your moves. That’s all.
It is not self-help. It is alchemy.
Helping yourself is about locking into the raw and bold truth of who you are and aligning it within everything you do and are. The truth of who you are doesn’t come from how you show up or what you do. It is what can only be described as your Self. And when you align […]
The terrifying prospect of being alright
Feeling not good enough is useful. There is safety in believing we are broken, and a lot of us work very hard to ensure life feeds us continual validation of our own insufficiency. Being not good enough gives us hope and control. As long as the size of my ass, heft of my bank account, […]